Many people, I think, know the story of the Good Samaritan – the man by the side of the road in a deserted place who is ignored by the priest and lawyer and rescued by the unpopular foreigner. I remember learning a song that asked me if I would have walked by or would I ‘cross the road’? For me the only honest answer to that question is – it depends but I hope so.
In his beautiful reflection on Radio 4 last Saturday, the founder of L’Arche community, Jean Vanier, challenged people to cross the road. He asked his listeners to imagine a neighbourhood where all the rich people lived on one side of the road and those on the other side lived in poverty. What was needed, and what is needed in our sometimes fragmented and compartmentalised society, was for people to cross over the road. But then he added a warning – don’t go on your own – when you go to cross the road, take a few friends with you.
That is an image that will stay with me for a long time. It has already become for me an image of my ministry as a deacon. I don’t have a huge programme for mission, a single cure for inequality or a new mode of worship to roll out and revolutionize the church but I do have a feeling that crossing the road is central to our discipleship and it’s best done with a few friends.
There are many different roads we can choose to cross. My last few years of interfaith working have taken me across some perceived barriers to meet people who have shown me the incredible beauties of their faith, answered my stumbling questions and offered me friendship. It’s been a wonderful journey.
But in the last six months my work has subtly moved to focus on both interfaith work and work to build economic equality. In a way that second road seems harder to cross. (It’s interesting that a recent study in primary schools found that class [economic difference] not ethnicity or religion was the hardest barrier for children to cross.) I am really glad that I have friends who are well ahead of me on this journey.
At his recent book launch Archbishop John Sentamu said that in a strange way the consumer society is a way of creating and distributing unhappiness. I think it is also a way of creating and distributing divison and separation. Things, wealth and possessions mark us off as different from one another – they become our identity.
Meeting people of different faiths makes me reflect on what I believe, the truths that underpin my own religion and practice. I have found this hugely enriching.
Meeting people who have been sanctioned, who cannot work because of the asylum system, who live on zero hour contracts or who are paid too little to live on makes me reflect not on what I believe but what I have. It provokes me to think about my attitudes of entitlement, the waste of fast fashion, the food we throw away and the holidays we feel we need. At first sight this is less enriching.
But in her brilliant book Take this Bread, Sara Miles, reminds us that we are not crossing the road to rescue those less fortunate than oursleves, we are not coming to learn on a self-improvement programme but we come because our salvation and wholeness is bound up with one another.
She says; “I think we are being called to something harder than being conventional Good Samaritans. To understand ourselves, individually and as a church, being rescued by strangers and foreigners, by the wrong people. To understand ourselves, individually and as a church, as beaten, hungry, hurting, lost at the side of the road. Called to touch the parts of ourselves that are strange and damaged and needy. Called to receive love from people we don’t know and have no reason to trust. And only then, in turn, being called to the second part: to go and do the same thing – knowing it will change us in ways we didn’t plan and may not like.”
One of my favourite phrases about the ministry of a Deacon comes from the ordination service. It says; “They are to work with their fellow members… reaching into the forgotten corners of the world, that the love of God may be made visible.”
If the service said Deacons were to work alone, I couldn’t do it. If it said they were taking the love of God to forgotten corners of the world I couldn’t do it. But I hope that as I learn to give and receive from those I meet on the other side of the imaginary road, then the love of God may in some way be made visible.
Jesus said plenty about crossing roads, not hoarding things, sharing our resources and eating together. He didn’t send his disciples alone and he promised that wherever we go he will go with us. People like Jean Vanier, Sara Miles and the saints of the Church in Birmingham remind me that crossing roads is not only possible but it’s our calling and through crossing the road we will meet Jesus.
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I like your latest blog so much that I would like permission to crib some of it for a talk I am giving to the local clergy at Little Gidding on Shrove Tuesday. it is one of three and is based on the verse of scripture in the church over the window to the Bishop of Lincoln: be hospitable Dazza
Crib away – none of my ideas are original. I just collect them and parade them – it’s a bit like my shopping habit!
Hi Jessica great read. Where are you a distinctive deacon?
I was a d d for many years then God had other ideas. However your blog describes my current parishes. I too have identified the class/ wealth barrier as the most challenging – both ways.
Hi Kathryn. I am based in Birmingham but still in training. I would love to know more of your story. Do e-mail me at email@example.com.